Part of being human is to sometimes face difficult emotions such as shame, grief, despair, disappointment, and sadness. In moments of suffering, it is a natural tendency to want to numb or want to take the edge off of these feelings that cause vulnerability and pain. Most of us engage in behaviors (consciously or not) …
My! Aren’t kids a pure joy and a they can be struggle at the same time. Knowing the right buttons to push can be difficult. Boystown gives five characteristics of a good consequence. In my opinion, it is one of the best lists to stack comparison next to your discipline methods. 1. Important: In order for a …
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In Part 1 of how to enhance intimacy, we discussed emotional intimacy and how to enhance that aspect of your relationship. This week, we will address the second part of intimacy, which is physical intimacy. As we discussed before, intimacy is an essential part of a healthy and satisfying relationship. Again, I will present some …
This whole therapist thing is serious business. Most of the time, people don’t show up unless things have gotten bad. It’s similar to the doctor’s office, where no one wants to spend effort on a visit that could be cured with time, rest, or an over the counter pack of cough drops. It’s not uncommon …
I love the idea of love rituals presented by Dr. William J. Doherty and I love working with my couples in finding and implementing them. I have written of rituals (traditions) importance in our marriages before but I want to look specifically at our daily rituals and why they are so important in having a …
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There are many different types of relationships ranging anywhere from strangers and acquaintances to friends, family, or spouse. If any of these people ask how you are doing, in the spilt second of your response, you are faced with how to answer the question. You may evaluate who is asking the question, how safe you …
Once upon a time, over a decade ago, I was a young and naive college student. I was surrounded by other young people, dreaming about a bright future. We fantasized about dream jobs we might hold and eventual accomplishments we would achieve. Kimmy’s best friend Bobby was going to start a non-profit to save harbor seals. …
Intimacy is an essential aspect of a romantic relationship. When we talk about relationship intimacy, we should recognize that there are two different types of intimacy—emotional and physical. These two are intertwined and both must be addressed and enhanced when a relationship is struggling. Even when a relationship is healthy, it takes conscious effort to …
Those are fancy words for something commonly known as “mom guilt.” While it’s perhaps more common in mommy culture, dads are susceptible as well, and it’s all too commonly expressed by those sitting on the couch in front of me. I can give you a quick diagnostic quiz right now. Are any of the following …
Do you struggle with the winter blues? Is this time of year hard for you to stay positive and upbeat? Are you wishing winter was over and summer was here? I can answer yes to all of those questions and there are many out there that can say yes to some or all of them …
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