Take down–two points. Reversal–two points. Pin–for the win. These are all things I witnessed at my son’s most recent wrestling tournament. As I sat and watched my son wrestle, I couldn’t help but think that I see a similar pattern of verbal and emotional behavior from many of the couples I have seen in my …
Self Test: YES NO Will you do whatever is asked of you to keep everyone around you happy? YES NO Is it everyone else more important than yourself? YES NO Is it saying “no” hard for you? YES NO Is it to be needed almost an addiction for you? YES NO When you are needed …
Say YES to Saying NO! : A Guide to Overcoming People Pleasing Read More
Everyday we have situations, circumstances, people, and events calling for our attention. Some are exciting, some are scary, some are confusing, some are frustrating. The list of possible reactions to the innumerable circumstances are endless. So how do we decide what to focus our efforts on, and what to let go? First, it is important …
If you were taught similar things to most people, you probably grew up believing that the world was simply divided into good and bad and right and wrong. And if you were to lift the cover on yourself, you will find a “shoulds list” that you have probably never accomplished, living a life full of …
Is there such a thing as loving oneself too much? What about too little? How do we achieve the balance of self; in the sense that it is just right? Let’s delve into what each of these actually mean and then expand upon their relationship towards each other: Self-esteem: what we THINK and FEEL and …
It isn’t uncommon for someone to struggle with low self-worth and negative thoughts about themselves. These negative core beliefs can be debilitating and can begin to get in the way of our capacity to feel joy and happiness. So how do you take a lifetime of believing something negative about yourself and turn it around? …
Often we think of self consciousness as having negative connotations that may coincide with being too embarrassed to speak up, insecure in our interactions with others, or even missed opportunities in life. Ultimately, as we explore our own individual relationships with self consciousness and how it can provide benefits in relationships within ourselves and …
What is one of the strongest motivators for change? I would argue that it is hope. Hope motivates us to keep going even when things are difficult. There have been times in my life when I felt no hope in certain aspects of my life. Those are the times I’ve struggled the most. There have …
While the sincerest of basketball fans begin to set up their March Madness brackets on who they’d like to see win or lose about this time of year…there’s another form of madness that happens in March that may be more applicable to more of us that don’t follow the ball up and down the court! …
The goal of effective communication is mutual understanding. Often, we forget that communicating is an art. They are so many little pieces that play an important role in the way we communicate to others such as our verbal expression (written, oral, and visual) and nonverbal communication such as our body language. I would like …
Communication Skills: How to Speak, Listen and Respond to your Loved Ones Read More
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