I’m not a hopeless romantic. I’m not even romantic. In fact, once upon a time I met one of my favorite authors and after chatting for a few minutes, she said to me “you remind me of one of my characters, this is her pin.” And this author handed me a button that read “A …
Many people come to therapy feeling stuck in their problem with hopes that they can get some movement or change with whatever is distressing. Couples get in the same patterns of arguments and feel they need a confidential, non-emotionally-heightened person to help them get out the negative cycle. Some parents are trying to reach their …
What does it mean to journal? Many of us think of journals as a record that is kept for future generations to read. Although these types of journals are important, the type of journaling that will bring emotional benefits is not written for an audience. It is written only for you. It is called expressive …
What rules need to be communicated in order to meet each other’s needs and help us both win? In those childhood games of Hide and Seek, every neighborhood had different rules, and as our worlds got bigger, we found there were a few things that had to be established at the beginning of each round. …
Hide and Seek: Part one We all played it as kids. Some people hide, other people seek. We find the cleverest hiding places and we sit silently, or we imagine just where our friends might be and we search until discovering them. There are variations on the rules, how high you count, boundaries, running to …
Most of us are pretty grateful for parents who took good care of our younger selves. They taught us to brush our teeth and be polite. They helped us to develop some unique talents and told us that they loved us. It was an exciting day when we were ready to move out our own, …
In 1944 Ingrid Bergman starred in a movie called, “Gaslight.” In the movie, Ingrid’s character notices strange behavior from her new husband. She also notices inconsistencies about him. He flips everything on her and begins to convince her slowly that she is going mad. He removes pictures, plants stolen items, and tells her she is …
The National Institute of Mental Health Disorders reports that anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in America. Anxiety disorders, including Generalized Anxiety, OCD, Panic Disorder and PTSD, affect 40 million adults in the U.S. It is likely someone who know and love or even yourself may be dealing with an anxiety disorder. Studies …
Does that bring a classic love song to mind? I’ve been reading some advice given to couples therapists, and I found a marvelous phrase that speaks to so many relationship concerns. “Good Communication doesn’t mean saying everything.” (Mary Pipher) When there is an overwhelm of emotion, of wanting to be understood, we can make demands …
Communication is a huge piece in relationships and can have an impact as to whether they are succeeding or deteriorating. Many couples in the Salt Lake County area seeking marital counseling are looking for help with the way they communicate. There are many pieces to having healthy communication with your spouse and here we will …
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