Change is hard. None of us want to be alone in the process of change, especially when changing to improve a relationship. For this reason, people in relationships say things to themselves like, “I’ll change as soon as he changes” or “I’m changing, and I’m not getting any credit from her, so why should I …
Many times clients I meet with apologize for crying in a session. I always reassure them that crying is healthy and my office is a safe place to have a good cry. You may ask, “Is crying really “good” for you?” Yes it is! There is even scientific research to support that. Research shows …
If you’re anything like me, my guess is that your knee jerk reaction to a discussion about goals involves a certain amount of anticipated feelings of guilt or inadequacy. Don’t worry! Part of the goal of this blog will be to learn how to make your goals work for you rather than you work …
Have you ever heard your precious child say something that caught you off guard in a negative way? Have you ever heard your child say something like, “I am so stupid” and “I can’t do anything right?” Many caregivers almost intuitively know that calling a child “stupid” could impact the child’s idea of how smart …
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As I was tucking my eleven-year-old son into bed tonight, he wanted me to sit with him. I told him I could for a minute but I also needed to do some things for work. He asked me what I had to do and I told him I needed to write a blog post …
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Although we may not like the idea of Facebook and other social media mining data about us, there is something valuable about the concept of data mining that can be applied to healthy couple relationships. You may think this is an odd application but hear me out. Every day, social media platforms collect information about …
I want you to imagine a man who is allergic to roses. He loves roses. He makes sure he has fresh roses everywhere; in the car, in the office, in the kitchen, in the bathroom, in the bedroom. Every time you see him you see the effects of the allergic reaction in his itchy, red, …
When I hear the word “home” versus “house,” there is a distinct difference in the emotion evoked and the association linked to those words. Home is central to the holiday season for me. It made me think about what makes my house a home when I read Queen Elizabeth’s Christmas address this evening. She …
Regardless of the roots or intensity of your marital issues, couple’s therapy can be beneficial to any relationship. Have you ever felt like there are some areas that need improvement in your marriage, such as communication, revitalizing your emotional connections with your partner, or maybe renewing your commitment? In my personal experience working with couples, …
The concept of having an “unplugged night” came while my husband and I were both going to school, working full-time, and balancing the task of beginning our young family. Oftentimes at the end of the day, we would sink into the couch and relax to our favorite show. It was a simple routine that worked …
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