We all enjoy the feeling that can come from being right and proving to others that we are right and that they are wrong. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing to enjoy this feeling but having to be right can get in the way of relationships, take control of our marriages, and create …
What we know about emotions cross all cultures is that all humans feel the same basic emotions. These six common cross- continental emotions are: Anger, sadness, surprise, excitement, disgust, shame, or joy. One of the assumptions of one of the best forms of couples therapy, called Emotionally Focused Therapy, is that problems improve when we can express …
Do you fear being yourself, or letting others know the “real” you? Is vulnerability a bad word to you? Do you have the courage it takes to be your true self in your relationships, knowing it could mean that you will be rejected? In a TED talk by Brene Brown on the power of vulnerability, …
You may have heard it before: “you shouldn’t should on yourself or anyone around you.” It’s a catchy little turn of grammar that is both tongue in cheek as well as really great advice. How often do we hear our friends, families, and even selves say something to the effect that another person “should’ do …
Adolescent counseling If you have ever struggled with anxiety, you are pretty normal. Anxiety is our bodies’ natural response that helps us to survive threatening situations. However, when you feel constantly bombarded with thoughts, feelings, and physical symptoms of anxiety to real or even imagined threats, you may benefit from the following tools to recover …
I recently revisited one of my favorite descriptions of the self-defeating beliefs that make us miserable. What I love most about this list is how in three quick summaries, the author, David Burns, encapsulates all the self-inflicted miseries in human experience. A quick look at the three below now. We all have our pet favorites …
One thing that has stuck out to me as a therapist is how often anger comes up as a response to anxiety or fear. I have found a lot of clients become reactive when something is said or done that strikes a nerve with their own fears and anxieties. Some of us have a more …
These two give us a lot of problems, first of which is the tendency to mix them up. Apathy is an absence of care and concern. Ambivalence is a mixed of emotions, often conflicting. I may even suggest to you that the two are exact opposites. Apathy is a plain piece of paper with no …
We all have times of hardship in our relationships. Difficult times come into many marriages, families, parenting, and even relationships with friends and co-workers. These times can vary in their severity, length, and occurrence. While one couple is struggling with their marriage, another family may be stressed about their children while another is fighting with …
Is there a crucial conversation in your significant relationship that you are avoiding? Maybe you are avoiding it because you fear what his or her answer is. Maybe you don’t bring it up because it has turned into a fight in the past. But if you really think about it, does avoiding the conversation make …
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