What do you expect in a therapy session? People often come into the therapy office wanting advice, fixing, and wondering what the magic wand is that therapists learn to wave in all those years of school. As a musician, I have listened to and performed countless notes, combinations of harmonies and rhythms, and worked for …
A video went around on social media recently that caught my attention. The video asked older women what they would tell their younger-selves and their responses were to live in the moment and just be. We hear so many times by older generations how fast time goes and those with kids often hear that it …
Wouldn’t life be simple if we lived in an old Western where the good guys wore cowboy hats and the bad guys wore bandanas over their faces and ominous music started up to warn is of scary things? Unfortunately, life so not so cut and dry, and people are not so easily labeled as bad …
One of the best conceptualizations I have heard about ADHD is that ADHD is an executive functioning deficit. Meaning, its not that a person doesn’t know what to do or how to do it, they can’t make themselves do it. Knowledge of task does not become performance of task. It is easy to mistake this behavior …
Counseling costs money, and takes time. For many it requires a baby sitter. It can be difficult to take on the commitment of counseling. A common question asked is, “How long will counseling take?” My answer to that is, “Depends.” It depends on how hard you work. We are together 50-80 minutes a week. The rest …
With the barrage of advertising and social media we see everyday, its no wonder that many of us struggle with self-image. The expectation for perfection is abundant and can have a strong affect on the way we see ourselves. This becomes a problem because feeling badly about how we look can have an impact on …
Many of us struggle with change, or rather we struggle with what we consider to be a bad change. I have yet to hear of someone (at the time) becoming upset because they won the lottery; yet, some changes are so unnerving they can leave us with physical symptoms such as loss of sleep or appetite, anxiety, …
When we have difficult things in our life (That’s all the time Keri), we tend to want to try minimize the pain and discomfort (Ya think? Duh, Keri). When we have thoughts, images, or memories which are unpleasant we often try to control our emotions. Generally speaking, we either try to dominate our unwanted thoughts …
Common emotional control strategies we use regularly THAT DO NOT WORK. Read More
Stress. It’s something that inevitably comes to any relationship, even those that seem like the honeymoon stage is guaranteed to last forever. But knowing that stress will come isn’t nearly as important as knowing how to deal with it. After all, many in Salt Lake City and across the nation enter couples therapy in part …
This is the 2nd in a blog series dedicated to helping parents help their children and teens become more resilient. The first blog about Competence is linked here. The next skills of Confidence and Connection both help kids to be able to bounce back from difficulties. Confidence is the solid beliefs in one’s own …
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