Learning to draw is really learning how to see. For example, right now, draw the most detailed and representative rendition of a pineapple you can from memory. Do not look up any images or photographs. When you have completed your drawing, look up a photograph of a pineapple or buy one from the store. Compare …
Many people come to therapy feeling stuck in their problem with hopes that they can get some movement or change with whatever is distressing. Couples get in the same patterns of arguments and feel they need a confidential, non-emotionally-heightened person to help them get out the negative cycle. Some parents are trying to reach their …
What does it mean to journal? Many of us think of journals as a record that is kept for future generations to read. Although these types of journals are important, the type of journaling that will bring emotional benefits is not written for an audience. It is written only for you. It is called expressive …
Most of us are pretty grateful for parents who took good care of our younger selves. They taught us to brush our teeth and be polite. They helped us to develop some unique talents and told us that they loved us. It was an exciting day when we were ready to move out our own, …
In 1944 Ingrid Bergman starred in a movie called, “Gaslight.” In the movie, Ingrid’s character notices strange behavior from her new husband. She also notices inconsistencies about him. He flips everything on her and begins to convince her slowly that she is going mad. He removes pictures, plants stolen items, and tells her she is …
Part of being human is to sometimes face difficult emotions such as shame, grief, despair, disappointment, and sadness. In moments of suffering, it is a natural tendency to want to numb or want to take the edge off of these feelings that cause vulnerability and pain. Most of us engage in behaviors (consciously or not) …
Do you struggle with the winter blues? Is this time of year hard for you to stay positive and upbeat? Are you wishing winter was over and summer was here? I can answer yes to all of those questions and there are many out there that can say yes to some or all of them …
Anxiety and OCD are two disorders that share a few things in common. They both are worry disorders. They both experience the brain in hyper drive trying to protect you from whatever horror the brain has imagined. While worrying is a normal and often helpful endeavor, anxiety worry and OCD obsessing take worrying to new levels …
This time of year, many people make resolutions or goals for self-improvement. One area many of us can improve on is taking better care of ourselves. If you are in a healthy place yourself mentally and physically, you are going to have more energy to give to your relationships. Here are a few suggestions on …
Self-Defeating Behaviors are attitudes turned action which keep us from obtaining the thing we want to very most by doing the exact thing which prevents us from reaching the goal. These behaviors are usually spurred on by some emotion; self doubt, fear of failure, depression, a belief that you can’t handle life without the behavior, …
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