I have always been a bit of a news junkie. I typically enjoy staying caught-up with the things going on here in Utah, around the country, and in the world. I find myself struggling to find enjoyment in the climate that seems to have become the norm in the media. Self-centeredness seems to be at …
One of the most important keys to overcoming marital problems is to believe in your marriage. Believe that it can be saved. Believe in yourself and your spouse in your abilities to make the personal changes necessary for things to be made right. Certainly there are circumstances where a relationship may not be salvageable. However, …
Through actively listening in therapy sessions; many individuals struggle with interpersonal relationships and boundaries. Unless we reside deep in the woods and live solely off of the land, we all must work and interact with others on a daily basis. This combined with the reality we are all unique with diverse attributes, beliefs and perceptions …
Marriage takes time. Meaningful marriages take effort. Combine these two elements of a little time and effort into a meaningful ritual of quality time together. Doing so could potentially improve the quality of your marriage in just fifteen minutes a day. Just follow this three-step plan to creating meaningful daily ritual. Stop It is important …
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Many couples come to counseling stating they hope to improve their communication skills and deepen intimacy. Dr. John Gottman offers a basic conversational map for strengthening our emotional connection. According to Gottman, the first step is to listen non-defensively. Gottman also urges couples to communicate intentionally. Gottman’s three skills and one rule: The rule: Understanding …
In spite of all my training both personally and professionally, I still have moments when I struggle with how to talk about “the hard things”. We all have those moments where we are so emotionally involved in the situation, that we forget to step back and really look at if our approach is helpful. …
What happens inside of you when someone says “You!” to describe you, your feelings or your behavior? For instance, what if someone asks you, “Why are you always angry?” Or, “What is wrong with you?” Do you feel your internal defenses rising? Dr. Thomas Gordon, clinical psychologist, developed the Gordon Model. Gordon’s method is a …
This question is one we often ask our spouse or our kids when we see them at the end of the day but how effective is it at really helping us connect? Dr. John Gottman suggests a formula for this type of conversation that will help reduce stress and feel more connected in our relationships. …
Trust. In any kind of significant relationship, trust is about as fundamental as it gets. In a healthy marriage, trust is essentially necessary to building a strong structure. What do you do when trust is broken and your foundation is shattered? What do you do with the remaining pieces? How do you sort through …
My husband and I have been married for over ten years. In that time, I have come to realize that for a marriage to work, and be strong, and for both parties to be independently and collectively happy, it takes much more than words. It requires more than the rote “I love you” whispered as …
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