It isn’t uncommon that I have a couple in my office that is struggling, and one or both partners are so worried about, upset with, or hurt by the other that they really want the other to apologize, fix things, and change. Unfortunately, what can sometimes happen is that one or both partners begins to …
On December 1, 1862, in a letter to congress, President Abraham Lincoln said “We can succeed only by concert. It is not ‘can any of us imagine better?’ but, ‘can we all do better?’ The dogmas of the quiet past, are inadequate to the stormy present. The occasion is piled high with difficulty, and …
Unfortunately, infidelity in relationships may be more common than we realize. The numbers do vary somewhat depending on what studies you look at but an anonymous survey by YouGov in 2015 found that about 1 in 5 Americans admitted to cheating on their partner. Assuming this number is fairly accurate, it is likely that you or …
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Have you ever heard parents of teenagers say things like, “What am I getting out of being a parent to this kid?” and “When do I start getting something in return?” It sounds like these parents love their children but are stressed by the job of parenting. This kind of cost-benefit language used from well-intentioned …
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This weekend we were spending time as a family with our good friends up at Bear Lake. My son and daughter were playing outside when my son came in and asked for a paper towel. I looked down to see that he had skinned his knee and was bleeding in one spot and had road …
An ageist joke that has been repeated far too many times, that only adds to the myths and misconceptions of what sex is like as we age, goes something like this:Young couples have sex tri-weekly. Middle aged couples try weekly, and older couples try weakly. This bad joke adds to the misconception that beyond a certain …
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Who You. If you are a living, breathing, human being, then boundary setting is for you. In fact, research shows that some of the most loving and caring people are those who are have good boundaries. Everyone benefits from setting healthy boundaries. What To understand what boundaries are, we need also need an understanding of …
How do we rebuild trust? This is a common question that couples ask when they come to meet with me. The concept of trust can be a complicated one. I suggest that we define what makes up trust in a relationship to begin with. After we’ve defined trust, we can discuss ways to rebuild it. …
Are you growing apart in your marriage? Do you feel like you and your spouse are drifting away from each other? It seems to be a trend, and you are not alone. Some couples experience this disconnect, but it is how you respond and how you react to it that matters. For most couples the …
As the new year begins, it offers the time-old tradition of setting resolutions. You might resolve to exercise more, learn a new skill or talent, be more diligent in something, eat better, or get enough sleep. We set these goals to save our health, save our happiness, and to save our potential. All of these …
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