Quick reminder of the Path of with discernment therapy Path 1: The Status Quo Path 2: Separation or Divorce Path 3: Reconciliation What is to be gained from clarity and confidence when you decide to be committed on a path for the relationship? This comes in the form of commitment, and feeling like the decision …
Love and Money Research tells us that when couples argue about their finances they aren’t actually talking about money. Yet, research also shows that money is the one of most frequently cited sources of friction in a marriage. The conclusion we can draw from these two seemingly paradoxical truths is that couples often misunderstand the …
One of the hardest things to do is staying in the status quo of a relationship that is mired in bad blood or resentment. Yet, there are couples that feel like they have to stick it out for their children and then they can leave the relationship and be happy. That is a long wait …
I recently came across this video by the School of Life. The video helps viewers understand the distance and cold we can sometimes feel for, or from, our partner. They don’t use the word attachment in the video. Attachment is the idea that humans are born with an innate ability and desire to attach to a caregiver. …
I’m willing to guess that almost anyone who has been in a relationship knows what the blame game is. Many of us fall into the blaming cycle where one person may blame the other and then either the other person responds with throwing blame back, shutting down or getting defensive. As you know, this is …
With Thanksgiving approaching you may reflect on the things you are thankful for. What are you thankful for? Do you think your spouse is thankful for you? As I think of that question my mind and heart turn to my wife. She has shown her commitment to me and our children for many years. We love …
Today I was feeling stressed with a busy week ahead and thought about how I wished I was with my husband, because I feel calmer when I’m with him. So, I sent my husband a text and said, “I love you. You help calm me. I miss you.” He replied with, “I love you too. …
Affairs are difficult to get over, whether you’re the ‘injured party’ (IP) or the offending party (OP) (for want of better words). The pain of getting over an affair is made all the more difficult by the fact that the factors that trigger an affair are not well understood. This lack of understanding is made …
“How was your day?” Is this a question you ask your partner everyday when you see each other after work? Most of us ask this question, but is the conversation that follows a meaningful opportunity to reconnect? Most likely, you are not maximizing the opportunity as well as you could. One common issues in relationships …
In every marriage there will be fights. The perfect marriage has arguments and if you are thinking that this shouldn’t happen in your marriage then you need to think again. It can be healthy to have a (fair) fight/disagreement every so often. If not, most couples are bottling things up and stonewalling which is …
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