Have you ever arrived home from work and realized you don’t remember driving there? All of us have those moments where we shift into “autopilot” mode and our thoughts drift elsewhere. Shifting into autopilot can be easy when what we are doing is routine and we’ve done it often (like driving home from work). This …
Do you ever keep score in your relationship? Do you add up with you do something good, or when your spouse does something bad? A common pitfall couples regularly fall into is score keeping. This is detrimental to relationships for several reasons: Keeping track of your spouse’s deficiencies is an unfair way to observe their …
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Do you get at least 15 minutes of un-interrupted time to talk as a couple every day? Do you get any uninterrupted time to talk? Most couples that come into the Swinton Counseling office to receive couples therapy don’t make time to talk. Most try to explain to me that they don’t have time. They …
As the weather warms up and we all start to clean out the junk from our homes that has settled all winter, why not also clean up your romantic relationship? I am often surprised when my wife and I start our spring cleaning at home. We often look at each other and say “why did …
Do you notice that children seem to be more entitled lately? Do they seem more demanding for things that you never had at their age? Are you frustrated with your kids and their lack of respect toward you and others? There has been a shift in culture and expectations among young people today. This shift …
Do you let your eyes wander? Do you negatively compare your spouse to other attractive people? Do you do a double-take and check out that attractive person again? Are you interacting excessively or inappropriately with another person you feel some level of attraction toward? I read some disturbing statistics today. According to a study by …
Valentine’s day is rapidly approaching. Do you dread it? Do you get excited? Do you think it is a stupid holiday? I regularly work with couples that dread, get excited, or roll their eyes when I ask if they are doing anything for Valentine’s day. I typically suggest that couples make Valentine’s day special for …
Do you and your significant other ever involve other people in your disagreements? Do you try to involve a family member or friend to help resolve your relationship problems? If so, you may be creating unhealthy triangles. Most couples can get along well on their own if things are calm, stresses are low, children are …
Many couples come to a point in their relationship when they feel they are missing that “spark” they used to have. Often what couples mean when they say this is that they are missing the romance, the emotional connection, the fun they used to have when they were dating or newly married. One secret to …
Does using social media ever distract you from your couple relationship? Involvement in social media adds another task to already busy and over-programmed day. I have clients tell me daily about how busy they are, how they don’t have time to do some of the things that they know will help their relationship. They rattle …
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