Many couples come to a point in their relationship when they feel they are missing that “spark” they used to have. Often what couples mean when they say this is that they are missing the romance, the emotional connection, the fun they used to have when they were dating or newly married. One secret to reigniting or keeping the spark alive in your relationship is establishing regular dates with your spouse or partner. Often people explain that they are too busy, can’t afford it or feel guilty leaving their young children at home. The reality is, if you want to keep the emotional, physical and intellectual connection with your significant other, you can’t afford not to!

There are great benefits that come from dating your spouse or partner. In our busy and fast-paced world, individuals often complain that they don’t feel they are a priority to their partner. Taking your partner on a date shows him or her that you care and that you are making your partner and your relationship a priority. Going on dates builds an emotional bond with your partner and allows time for you to focus on one another like you did when you were dating. Planning a date night at least a few days ahead gives you and your partner something to look forward to. The anticipation can elevate your mood and help you through some of the more mundane or stressful moments in your daily life.

So, how do you actually make this happen? Set a date and time to go on weekly dates and make those dates a priority. Many couples like to take turns planning the dates. Get creative and think outside the box when planning your dates. Dinner and a movie can be fun, but it doesn’t allow for as much interaction. The more you are able to talk, laugh, reminisce and get to know each other again, it is likely your dates will begin to rekindle that spark you miss in your relationship.