You have most likely heard the saying, “opposites attract.” Often in the beginning of a relationship, we are attracted to traits we wish we had but might be an area of weakness for us. Sometimes this attraction is even subconscious. Many times, these opposite traits can be complimentary in a relationship. For example, I often …
On repeated late night phone calls with my mom and while relating some tale about a date, she would often remind me, “Ava, I don’t know what your love story is going to be.” As a single person, being open to the unfolding of your own story is an often difficult and unexpected journey sometimes …
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Have you ever told a friend or partner about something you are upset about and they immediately tried to offer advice? Or maybe they dismissed how you feel by saying something like, “Maybe you should just let that go.” Probably without meaning to, your friend is invalidating your experience and how you feel. Many times …
A renowned cardiac surgeon once gave a speech about the mitral valve, one of four valves in our heart and the one that is responsible for blood flow from our lungs to our hearts. He discussed the importance of the structural integrity of this valve, stating that if one of the cords attached to the …
Do you want to feel closer to your loved ones? Do you want to reconnect with your spouse or child? There is one very powerful nonverbal way to communicate to enhance closeness and reduce conflict. The tip is eye gazing. It is so simple that it is deceiving how powerful it can be. To better …
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Do you allow selfish desires to get in the way of being selfless with your spouse? Research has shown that psychological individualism has been growing for the past century. This has led to increased selfishness in romantic relationships. It is my processional opinion that selfishness is a toxic tendency that sits at the root of most …
World renowned marriage researcher, John Gottman, PhD, talks about the importance of a concept that he calls “Turning To” your spouse. As he explains this, he shares a story of a couple sitting together and as one of them looks out the window, they see a vehicle passing by on the street that reminds them …
I am going to divert from my typical tips this week and indulge in sharing personal insight I have gained in my own relationship. Today is our anniversary. It is a day I look forward to each year, and reflect on with pleasure. I remember the goals and dreams we shared when we were younger. …
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Have you ever been hurt by someone you love? We all have on some level, but when there is a loss of trust because of deception, working to regain that trust can be an emotionally difficult journey to take. The good news is that there is hope. We can heal from such struggles if both …
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