Sometimes it feels like the people closest to us seem to know the exact things to do and say to push our buttons and get us upset. Often we react by doing the exact thing that they don’t want most and get in return an equal but opposite reaction. If you ever find yourself in …
As we all know, we must make deposits into a bank account to make it grow and to keep it balanced it when we have to make a withdrawal. Have you ever thought of your relationship as an emotional bank account? John Gottman, a leading researcher in marriage counseling, suggests that satisfied couples are good …
Ever heard the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day, but it burned in one?” One would hate to be architect who came to Rome to rebuild after such a tragedy. How can you ever reclaim the glory of the Roman Forum? Who could build a building more impressive than the Coliseum? If you’ve ever …
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Timeouts are not just for kids. Adults can use them too and should use them if they want a better relationship. A very well-known marriage researcher and expert, Dr. John Gottman has found that if after 3 minutes, an argument is not going well then it more than likely will not get better and possibly …
Sometimes in relationships when we have become comfortable with each other, as time has passed, we forget how to show to our partners how much we care about them, our relationship and our appreciation for them. When this happens it is a lot easier to begin losing the emotional connection with our spouse which can …
One of the first challenges that I give to the couples I meet with is to go on weekly dates if they aren’t already and if they are, to make their dates more meaningful. Having weekly date nights does several positive things for your relationship. First, it gives you one on one time to reconnect. …
I enjoy rock climbing and when I go I am putting a great deal of trust into the equipment I have brought with me. This trust allows me to personally challenge myself, explore new places, and brings me a sense of joy and accomplishment. My climbing equipment will always have my trust if I treat …
Why is change so difficult? It is human nature to resist change. Even if we know we are unhappy, it is difficult push ourselves outside of our comfort zones and try something new. It truly is difficult to let go of what we know and what we are comfortable with. My sister shared a quotes with …
I’m not a hopeless romantic. I’m not even romantic. In fact, once upon a time I met one of my favorite authors and after chatting for a few minutes, she said to me “you remind me of one of my characters, this is her pin.” And this author handed me a button that read “A …
Does that bring a classic love song to mind? I’ve been reading some advice given to couples therapists, and I found a marvelous phrase that speaks to so many relationship concerns. “Good Communication doesn’t mean saying everything.” (Mary Pipher) When there is an overwhelm of emotion, of wanting to be understood, we can make demands …
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