When should you talk about having children?
Here are some great tips from Dr. Swinton on when you and your partner should have conversations about having children.
Money and relationships: Should we share?
Some advice on how to appropriately view and share money as a couple.
Does couples therapy really work?
Are you or your spouse skeptical about couples therapy? Do you wonder if it really works? When a new couple comes in for therapy it is common for one or both of them to have some skepticism about therapy. There are many reasons people feel this such as: What has been portrayed on television or …
Don’t Let Her Go
I love listening to music. It is a great escape for me, and I find great metaphors and examples of life in the lyrics of many songs. Music helps me reflect powerful ways. There is a song I heard recently by a group called Passenger that had an insightful message that struck a chord with me: Well …
Beware of Selfishness
Do you allow selfish desires to get in the way of being selfless with your spouse? Research has shown that psychological individualism has been growing for the past century. This has led to increased selfishness in romantic relationships. It is my processional opinion that selfishness is a toxic tendency that sits at the root of most …
What I have learned about relationships from my wife
I am going to divert from my typical tips this week and indulge in sharing personal insight I have gained in my own relationship. Today is our anniversary. It is a day I look forward to each year, and reflect on with pleasure. I remember the goals and dreams we shared when we were younger. …
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How keeping score can actually help your relationship
Do you ever keep score in your relationship? Do you add up with you do something good, or when your spouse does something bad? A common pitfall couples regularly fall into is score keeping. This is detrimental to relationships for several reasons: Keeping track of your spouse’s deficiencies is an unfair way to observe their …
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Make time to talk
Do you get at least 15 minutes of un-interrupted time to talk as a couple every day? Do you get any uninterrupted time to talk? Most couples that come into the Swinton Counseling office to receive couples therapy don’t make time to talk. Most try to explain to me that they don’t have time. They …
Relationship spring cleaning
As the weather warms up and we all start to clean out the junk from our homes that has settled all winter, why not also clean up your romantic relationship? I am often surprised when my wife and I start our spring cleaning at home. We often look at each other and say “why did …
Avoid enabling an entitled generation
Do you notice that children seem to be more entitled lately? Do they seem more demanding for things that you never had at their age? Are you frustrated with your kids and their lack of respect toward you and others? There has been a shift in culture and expectations among young people today. This shift …
