My parents tell the story of me when I was little looking up at the moon and saying, “ball.” They tell me that I was active and agile and, as I grew older, this translated into me trying to play various sports on lots of teams like little league baseball, flag football, soccer, softball, volleyball, …
Most relationships at one time or another go through difficult times. While it’s important to address concerns, it can become destructive to the relationship when the focus on the negative outweighs the positive. Relationship expert and researcher, Dr. John Gottman, has found a “magic ratio” of positive to negative interactions in successful marriages. His research …
Do you find yourself limiting your playful nature? The relationship tip this week is to verbally give permission for your partner or friends to be playful around you and to seek the courage to share your own playfulness. Playfulness is the ability to engage in things in a non-serious manner to lighten the mood and …
You have most likely heard the saying, “opposites attract.” Often in the beginning of a relationship, we are attracted to traits we wish we had but might be an area of weakness for us. Sometimes this attraction is even subconscious. Many times, these opposite traits can be complimentary in a relationship. For example, I often …
On repeated late night phone calls with my mom and while relating some tale about a date, she would often remind me, “Ava, I don’t know what your love story is going to be.” As a single person, being open to the unfolding of your own story is an often difficult and unexpected journey sometimes …
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Have you ever told a friend or partner about something you are upset about and they immediately tried to offer advice? Or maybe they dismissed how you feel by saying something like, “Maybe you should just let that go.” Probably without meaning to, your friend is invalidating your experience and how you feel. Many times …
A renowned cardiac surgeon once gave a speech about the mitral valve, one of four valves in our heart and the one that is responsible for blood flow from our lungs to our hearts. He discussed the importance of the structural integrity of this valve, stating that if one of the cords attached to the …
Do you want to feel closer to your loved ones? Do you want to reconnect with your spouse or child? There is one very powerful nonverbal way to communicate to enhance closeness and reduce conflict. The tip is eye gazing. It is so simple that it is deceiving how powerful it can be. To better …
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World renowned marriage researcher, John Gottman, PhD, talks about the importance of a concept that he calls “Turning To” your spouse. As he explains this, he shares a story of a couple sitting together and as one of them looks out the window, they see a vehicle passing by on the street that reminds them …
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