If you have children, you may have wondered at a time when they were struggling, “What does my child need, and how can I help him or her get those needs met?” For parents with children who have dealt with divorce, you may wonder, “How can I help my child survive a devastating divorce, and …
As the holidays are approaching, many of us are looking forward to the family traditions that come with this time of year. Traditions vary from family to family and in doing them, it can complete the holiday for us. These family traditions can provide our family members with a sense of security and belonging, strengthening …
“For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.” These may be cliche words, but the meaning behind them is valid and true. When we commit to marriage, we promise to stand by our spouse through all that lies ahead for us. As the years go on, difficulties will arise–job loss, financial struggles, raising children, …
This week I attended a conference on Men’s mental health. One of the big themes of the conference how much LESS often men* ask for help. There are stigmas for men. They feel a need to be silent and stoic. Their pain needs to be invisible. They are told they need to “man up”, take …
Two weeks ago, I walked into a room full of people that I know from different moments throughout my life, family and friends. As I saw them, I was reminded of the personal relationship that I have developed with each one of them. The feeling of love permeated my body; I could not stop smiling. …
As infants, when we felt distressed, we were offered several methods of self-soothing or calming. These include being swaddled, held, sucking on a pacifier, listening to white noise or the calming voice of a caregiver. The need to be able to calm or soothe ourselves remains with us as adults, however, the tools aren’t …
Many couples come to me and say, “Please, just help us communicate better. “ Often what they are actually saying is, “There is a disconnection that we don’t know how to remedy with the words we have already tried.” When I help people with their communication skills, I’m not just helping them find the right …
It’s a given in life that we won’t always agree with our spouse in many things, including parenting. In working with kids and parents on creating a better parent-child relationship, I often hear parents disagree but save the discussion for when the kids aren’t around. Many disagreements should wait until it’s just the two of you …
Two reasons disagreeing in front of your children may be OK Read More
Have you been feeling unhappy in your relationship? Or even just feeling that your partner doesn’t show enough love to you? Most of us experience these feelings at one time or another in our relationships. If we are honest with ourselves, it is easier to look at our partner and figure out what he or …
One of my favorite things about being a therapist is when I have my own, “Ah-hah!” moments. I had one such moment recently when doing some teaching about pornography. I explained three common reasons people turn to pornography. They turn to it when they are tired, lonely, or bored. I explained that pornography becomes a substitute …
How talking about pornography got me grounded from Netflix Read More
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