Fear is a powerful emotion. It can immobilize us if we allow it to take control. It is an emotion we have all likely felt at one time or another. Many of the people I meet with for counseling have some fears about whether counseling can work for them. These fears are real and …
The New Year often brings thoughts of creating resolutions and making changes in our lives. Some of these resolutions entail creating happier, more fulfilling lives and stronger and healthier relationships. This can be a relationship between you and your significant other, spouse, a parent, a child, a sibling, a friend, co-worker, etc. One thing I …
Recently, I was interviewed by the Mormon Channel Daily Show. HEAR IT NOW! (<—–click here to be taken to audio link) They asked me to talk about how to set boundaries with any kind of relationship. They often have therapists on their show, which is something I appreciate. The host asked me questions and we talked for about …
“People can only change if they don’t have to.” This paradox is a perplexing concept that relationship expert and researcher, John Gottman addresses in his work with couples. What does this statement really mean? What Gottman is trying to describe is the idea that when we feel accepted just the way we are by our …
Here we go! We are in the final countdown, as my kids are making sure I am aware, and I know this next week is going to be hectic, but also wonderful. I have not bought any gifts yet but that is not what I plan on doing this final weekend before the holiday. I …
Did you ever have a relationship where it felt “gamey?” Like, “I called him last so now he has to call me first” or “I am just going to wait a few more hours to text her back so that she can just wonder for a while.” While those types of games can damage …
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Of high profile in the therapy world these days is Brene Brown. She is researcher in the area of vulnerability and shame. Her Ted Talk “The Power of Vulnerability,” from 2010 has been viewed by 17.8 million people. That’s roughly the same amount of views as an mildly popular cat video. Except, this video is 20 minutes …
I wrote this article last year at this time and wanted to share it again. I’m sure there are people in new circumstances who could use these tips again this holiday season. Losses come in various forms: death of a loved one, loss of a job, the end of a relationship, a family member suffering …
Coping with Grief During the Happiest Time of the Year Read More
I had a basketball coach who was a yeller. Anytime a player made a mistake out on the court, they got pulled out of the game and berated in front of the rest of us. We learned to play basketball so as not to make a mistake and ended up playing “not to lose” instead …
This time of year we focus on gratitude and the things we are thankful for. It is a good time to focus on gratitude in your relationships. Does your spouse feel appreciated and understand the gratitude you feel for him or her in your life? Many of the couples I work with express a frustration …
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