One of the best conceptualizations I have heard about ADHD is that ADHD is an executive functioning deficit. Meaning, its not that a person doesn’t know what to do or how to do it, they can’t make themselves do it. Knowledge of task does not become performance of task. It is easy to mistake this behavior …
Emotional and physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship. However, it can be a very fragile part of a relationship as well. Infidelity, hurt feelings, abuse, anxiety, miscommunication, shame and anger can all contribute to what Dr. Barry McCarthy calls “poisoned sexual desire.” When sexual desire has been poisoned, it can lead to …
Cheaters Never Prosper… Except when they do. Are you struggling with infidelity in your marriage? If so, are you a participant in infidelity or hurt by someone who is? If you are in a relationship and your partner has been unfaithful, it can be very difficult. You may feel like you want to see your …
With rare exception, when people enter into a new relationship they make every effort to put their best selves forward. They are nicer, more thoughtful, more romantic, more understanding, and more supportive. This is commonly referred to as the “honeymoon” period. It is often the most exciting part of the relationship and is filled with …
We all know not to let toddlers stick their fingers into electrical outlets. You may have also discovered that it’s easier to distract the toddler with a new location, friend, or toy, than it is to sit between the outlet and the toddler and keep telling them “No”. Some may call the technique “distraction”, but …
This is the 4th and final blog in a series dedicated to helping parents help their children become more resilient. The 7 “C” are practical skills that parents can help instill in their children to be able to bounce back from stressors that life will inevitable hand them. The 1st blog that gives an overview …
Counseling costs money, and takes time. For many it requires a baby sitter. It can be difficult to take on the commitment of counseling. A common question asked is, “How long will counseling take?” My answer to that is, “Depends.” It depends on how hard you work. We are together 50-80 minutes a week. The rest …
I have a “monkey brain” when it comes to knowing what helps me feel loved or how to express to my partner how they can help me feel loved. All day long, my thoughts swing around like monkeys in a rainforest. I can just see them swing from one topic to another, screeching out loud, …
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With the barrage of advertising and social media we see everyday, its no wonder that many of us struggle with self-image. The expectation for perfection is abundant and can have a strong affect on the way we see ourselves. This becomes a problem because feeling badly about how we look can have an impact on …
Many of us struggle with change, or rather we struggle with what we consider to be a bad change. I have yet to hear of someone (at the time) becoming upset because they won the lottery; yet, some changes are so unnerving they can leave us with physical symptoms such as loss of sleep or appetite, anxiety, …
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