As a child, when I thought about the “perfect marriage” I often pictured fairy tale princesses, such as Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, finding their prince charming and living “happily ever after”. Unfortunately, fairy tales don’t tell us anything about what “happily ever after” looks like. We never see HOW the couples lived “happily ever after” …
Even in religiously conservative states like Utah, pornography has become a widespread problem. Many couples in Utah seek the help of marriage counseling in part because of the impact pornography has had on their relationship. While some may try to deny that viewing pornography has any effect on their brain or relationship quality, research has …
Let’s face it, if you are going to live with someone, chances are good that at least an argument or two are going to happen, no matter what your grandparents tell you about “never going to be angry.” The healthier question may not be “if” we are going to fight, but “how?” So what can …
This is part 3 in a blog series dedicated to helping parents help their teens and children become more resilient. Part 1 about Resilience & Competence is linked here, and part 2 about Confidence & Connection is linked here. Two more qualities that help people become more resilient to the stressors and demands of life …
When we have difficult things in our life (That’s all the time Keri), we tend to want to try minimize the pain and discomfort (Ya think? Duh, Keri). When we have thoughts, images, or memories which are unpleasant we often try to control our emotions. Generally speaking, we either try to dominate our unwanted thoughts …
Common emotional control strategies we use regularly THAT DO NOT WORK. Read More
Picture each individual walking around with what looks like a transparent box above their head. Imagine this box contains the recipe for their marital relationships. Next to this box is an equal sign with a lower case t which stands for truth. What does your recipe box for relationships have in it and what is …
When I work with couples in counseling, my very first “homework assignment” for them is almost always implementing weekly date nights. I’ve recognized the importance of regular one-on-one time in maintaining emotional closeness with your partner and it is a fairly simple first step to reconnecting. Some couples have difficulty finding babysitters or money may …
One thing that drives my parents’ generation batty is cell phone use at the dinner table. In their day families conversed during meals. Meal time was a chance for family connection, for kids to share about the events of the day, how they were doing in school, and for everyone to stay aware of what …
Think it over. The interesting thing about an argument between two people is in most cases, neither walks away feeling all that happy or refreshed. Even if you have the opportunity to be “right” (keeping in mind that in marriage when your partner loses-you lose), it’s unlikely your satisfaction from “winning the argument” will outlast …
Stop in the name of love, before you break YOUR heart Read More
Have you ever been deceived and wondered how to move forward? How do you go about re-establishing the trust that has been lost or tainted? Consider these areas as you begin the journey of emotional healing. Unleash your energy to fix what’s wrong It’s that subtle shift between pushing ourselves to being accountable in the …
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