We all want to feel understood and valued. When we sense that others understand our perspective, we feel safer in relationships and more confident in general. Paradoxically, although we inherently crave understanding, we don’t intuitively know how to attain it. Indulge me as a bibliophile for a moment: this universal desire to understand …
My husband and I have been married for over ten years. In that time, I have come to realize that for a marriage to work, and be strong, and for both parties to be independently and collectively happy, it takes much more than words. It requires more than the rote “I love you” whispered as …
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THANK GOODNESS for technology, amiright?! More recently, I would say, THANK GOODNESS for some of the new therapy apps. You can download amazing resources, many free, that can assist in healing, keep you grounded when away from therapy, and teach you things that perhaps your therapist never knew you needed to hear. I thought I …
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“I just don’t have time.” Have you ever used that line before? Most of us have. In our modern society, we live busy lives. Have you ever thought about how many hours you actually have in a day? Today, I listened to a TED talk by Laura Vanderkam about gaining control of our free time. …
Quick reminder of the Path of with discernment therapy Path 1: The Status Quo Path 2: Separation or Divorce Path 3: Reconciliation What is to be gained from clarity and confidence when you decide to be committed on a path for the relationship? This comes in the form of commitment, and feeling like the decision …
Love and Money Research tells us that when couples argue about their finances they aren’t actually talking about money. Yet, research also shows that money is the one of most frequently cited sources of friction in a marriage. The conclusion we can draw from these two seemingly paradoxical truths is that couples often misunderstand the …
“The true meaning of being alive is not just to feel happy, but to experience the full range of human emotions.” –Edward Deci Sometimes people believe in the notion that all they want is “to be happy.” If this were really the case, then very few people would do anything challenging, risk-taking in relationships, or …
Unfortunately, despite many people who get married with good intentions there are a great many marriages that do end in divorce. Some stats predict that of all the children born last year, 50% of them will experience their parents divorce by the time they are 18 years old. Those same parents, with the same intentions …
My husband and I had the opportunity this past week to speak at the Share Parents support meeting in Cache Valley about grieving as a couple. Share is a national support group with local chapters who consist of mothers and fathers who have experienced infant and pregnancy loss. Together, my husband and I have lost two …
One of the hardest things to do is staying in the status quo of a relationship that is mired in bad blood or resentment. Yet, there are couples that feel like they have to stick it out for their children and then they can leave the relationship and be happy. That is a long wait …
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