Emotional boundaries can be difficult to establish and maintain during divorce. Unfortunately, a byproduct of this can be that children find themselves thrust into adult roles, sometimes becoming emotional caretakers for their parents or siblings. I like to share this Bill of Rights with kids and their parents when discussing emotional boundaries. It can also …
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We all have those days, times, and moments in parenting when things go off course from where we want to be. Trying to balance kids, school, friends, church activities, soccer games, work, and more can really put a strain on a family’s sense of connection and unity. Big feelings turns into tantrums. Jealousies become mean …
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Remember when you were building the early stages of your friendship with your partner or spouse? The friendship we have with our partner can keep our love alive, help us heal, reduce the chance for divorce, and ultimately strengthen our bond and connection. Friendship is the best protection against occasional negativity in our relationship. Friendship …
Do you and your spouse have disagreements? Does it feel that your partner just doesn’t hear you? Have you ever found yourself escalating a conversation just to get a reaction from your spouse? If you are like most of us, you can answer yes to at least one of these questions. Good communication is a …
Divorce impacts children; even adult children of parents who divorce often report struggling with the dissolution of their parents’ marriage. The most vulnerable individuals in family dealing with divorce are the dependent children. When I work with kids whose parents are splitting up, we often start by learning and implementing the “7 C’s,” listed below: …
Trust. In any kind of significant relationship, trust is about as fundamental as it gets. In a healthy marriage, trust is essentially necessary to building a strong structure. What do you do when trust is broken and your foundation is shattered? What do you do with the remaining pieces? How do you sort through …
How do we miss 50% of the good that exists in our relationships? University of Oregon researcher, Robert Weiss, noticed a pattern: Couples in ailing relationships tend to give negative interpretations to neutral and even positive events in their relationship. In other words, when we look for the negative, we fail to notice positive gestures …
One of the common symptoms of OCD have unwanted disturbing images. These are so unwanted that even the fact that were experienced causes significant emotional distress. The content of these images does vary greatly from person to person. In these images, the image may come up often and will be disruptive. Despite the images not being …
Have you ever noticed yourself so anxious or worried about something that you “check out” mentally? I’ve definitely been there–lost in my own thoughts and worries that I become disconnected. I’ve also felt so anxious that it becomes overwhelming and I don’t know what to do with it. Grounding techniques are great tools to help …
Emotions can be a tricky thing, one moment you are feeling fine and living care free. Then out of the blue, we are mad, sad, or nervous and it can happen in an instance. Emotions are a universal trait we all have to deal with, the good and the bad. For children it is the …
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