Here is a short quiz you can take to see if selfishness is causing problems in your marriage: 1. Do I confuse my desires with my needs? Y/N 2. Do I care more about “what’s in it for me” than “what’s in it for my spouse”? Y/N 3. Do I unfavorably compare my spouse to …
I was interviewed again on KSL Newsradio about how video games can cause problems in marriages. Visit this link to read an excerpt: http://www.ksl.com/?sid=16076730&nid=1015
When a loved one comes to you for a listening ear when they are struggling, the natural tendency is to try to “solve” their problems. We should avoid falling into this trap. To help with this I have compiled a simple list of to-do’s and not-to-do’s that you can follow when someone shares a struggle …
A week doesn’t go by when I am not asked questions similar to: “Did I marry the right person?”, “Is it possible we are just too incompatible?”, or “What if they are not what I want/need anymore?” Spouses often start to question things when the relationship gets rough. My experience is that there is nothing …
Have clear, age-appropriate rules and ramifications for breaking these rules for each child. Each child may need separate rules depending on their age. Ensure each child knows what the rules are. It can be helpful to write them down and post them in a visible place. This can reduce complaints regarding the fairness of the …
Consistency between parents: Building on the previous tip, there should not be one parent that lays the hammer down and the other that is a pushover. If your kids gravitate to one parent for certain things, this should be a sign of inconsistencies in parenting. Stereotypically, we see dad as the one to manage the tough …
Couples on the same page: Couples (or separated/divorced parents) always need to be on the same page when in comes to discipline. Often parents disagree with something the other parent did to discipline a child. If the other parent issues a punishment that you disagree with, support them in front of the kids. Then, talk …
In the coming months I will periodically post some tips for parents. One of the most common issues parents ask me for help with in counseling is how to appropriately discipline their children. Kids can be a wonderful joy in the lives of parents, but they can also become stressors when their behavior starts to get …
I was interviewed again today on KSL Newsradio. The interview happened due to the hype surrounding the Royal wedding. I think it can be a good thing for the world to make such a fuss over a wedding. By the same token, it is important to keep things in check and realize that fairy tale …
Here is a simple quiz that can help you know if communication problems may be putting your relationship at risk. Take note of your Y / N responses. 1. Do you or your spouse ever criticize each other? Y / N 2. Do you or your spouse ever feel blamed? Y / N 3. Do …
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