Today I wanted to share a book series I often recommend to parents to do with their children. One population I enjoy working with immensely is children. One reason I love kids is because they are concrete learners. So when it comes to learning therapeutic skills, almost more than any other population, there has …
Each of us feel love differently; and according to Gary Chapman, there are five main ways that people feel love. Children are no exception. They each have a need to be loved in their love language. Once we are able to understand what our child’s main love language is, then we are better able to channel our efforts using that particular love …
This question is one we often ask our spouse or our kids when we see them at the end of the day but how effective is it at really helping us connect? Dr. John Gottman suggests a formula for this type of conversation that will help reduce stress and feel more connected in our relationships. …
It is a little ironic that the words “Yes” and “No” are opposites, and yet are also inseparable. While I might say No to a night out with friends, it means I’m saying Yes to a night with my husband, or with myself. As an introvert, it’s pretty important for me to recharge my ability to …
COMMUNICATION BASICS FOR CO-PARENTING Research shows that children of divorced couples who follow co-parenting principles can develop emotional resilience and maintain healthy connections with both parents. What is Co-Parenting? When divorced couples agree to share the responsibilities for raising their children and support each other’s efforts to do so, they are committing to the idea …
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Image: the young boy learning to tie his shoes for the first time Or the toddler learning to use the light switch the first time A little girl trying to make the swings go on her own Childhood is full of daily growth for children. Their milestones occur frequently and in a matter of time what …
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Emotional boundaries can be difficult to establish and maintain during divorce. Unfortunately, a byproduct of this can be that children find themselves thrust into adult roles, sometimes becoming emotional caretakers for their parents or siblings. I like to share this Bill of Rights with kids and their parents when discussing emotional boundaries. It can also …
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Divorce impacts children; even adult children of parents who divorce often report struggling with the dissolution of their parents’ marriage. The most vulnerable individuals in family dealing with divorce are the dependent children. When I work with kids whose parents are splitting up, we often start by learning and implementing the “7 C’s,” listed below: …
How do we miss 50% of the good that exists in our relationships? University of Oregon researcher, Robert Weiss, noticed a pattern: Couples in ailing relationships tend to give negative interpretations to neutral and even positive events in their relationship. In other words, when we look for the negative, we fail to notice positive gestures …
Unfortunately, despite many people who get married with good intentions there are a great many marriages that do end in divorce. Some stats predict that of all the children born last year, 50% of them will experience their parents divorce by the time they are 18 years old. Those same parents, with the same intentions …
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