In the 2007 Disney film, “Enchanted,” the character Nathaniel sincerely asks Prince Edward the question “Sire, do you ever not like yourself?” to which the prince responds frankly, “What’s not to like?” We find this response humorous, but it makes me ponder over this question, “How is each of our relationships with ourselves?” My guess …
There are three main types of communication styles and you’ve probably heard of them before: passive, aggressive and assertive. Let’s define what those styles mean. Passive communication means that you often put your other’s rights/needs first and your’s second. Aggressive communication means that your rights/needs take priority and other’s are second. Assertive communication means that …
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Life is full of tests, trials, hardships, and barriers. Sometimes it seems like they all happen at once. Do you ever find yourself asking, “Why me?” Or trying to figure out what the point of all your tribulation is? In my last semester of grad school I was having one of those weeks, when everything …
Everybody has a hard day. We all struggle from time to time. No one is perfect. While these phrases may sound cliche, they are in fact a path to becoming more gentle and kind to yourself. Dr. Kristin Neff thinks so too. She has devoted her work to better understanding what she calls self-compassion. Self-compassion …
THANK GOODNESS for technology, amiright?! More recently, I would say, THANK GOODNESS for some of the new therapy apps. You can download amazing resources, many free, that can assist in healing, keep you grounded when away from therapy, and teach you things that perhaps your therapist never knew you needed to hear. I thought I …
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“I just don’t have time.” Have you ever used that line before? Most of us have. In our modern society, we live busy lives. Have you ever thought about how many hours you actually have in a day? Today, I listened to a TED talk by Laura Vanderkam about gaining control of our free time. …
You have likely heard, or have been exposed to many health programs or healthy eating challenges. Does “The two-week juice cleanse” or “drop 20 pounds in two weeks” ring a bell? These challenges have some goal or “promise” stating that if you do this challenge you will get amazing results. Like the health food and …
I saw a great quote the other day. It said, “Just because you are right does not mean I am wrong. You just haven’t seen life from my side.” This concept is very applicable in communication between partners. Even though most of us may not realize what we are doing, we often go into a …
I’ve been seeing clients since 2009, so one might assume that when my own personal crisis (aka opportunity) struck, that I would have been first in line at the therapist’s office. NOPE! One the day of my first (scheduled) therapy appointment I was so afraid, that I didn’t even call to cancel. I did not …
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The New Year is a good time for making goals and reflecting on areas you can strengthen in your marriage. Have you thought working on affair proofing your marriage? Considering that your marriage is vulnerable to an affair isn’t something most people want to think about. Although, Dr. Ofer Zur from the Zur Institute states, …
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