Many couples come to therapy with the goal of communicating better. I have found that it is not a skill set that is lacking. They once knew how to communicate very well. They once did not feel like things were as hard to disclose and receive as they are at present. I want to share …
I’ve been seeing clients since 2009, so one might assume that when my own personal crisis (aka opportunity) struck, that I would have been first in line at the therapist’s office. NOPE! One the day of my first (scheduled) therapy appointment I was so afraid, that I didn’t even call to cancel. I did not …
Why I’m so glad I finally let myself go to therapy Read More
Hollywood has given therapy an interesting portrayal in the eyes of the public as to what therapist do in a therapy session. Yes, we do have a couch in our room, but it is not just for lounging on. There is much more to therapy than what is seen on television, and a part what …
It’s that time of year! Some of you might be thinking positive things when you hear that while others have negative thoughts hearing that. Either direction of thinking is understandable but no matter which way your thoughts go it is important to remember to take care of yourself during this time year. During the holiday …
Have you ever been trying to tell someone something important and they were so busy on their phone that they did not hear a word you said? Have you ever felt like your kids are so plugged in that they are experiencing virtual life and not real life? Do you ever find yourself wasting hours …
How to Give the Gift of “Presence” for your Presents this Season Read More
There are going to be a good deal of posts about gratitude in preparation for Thanksgiving but I do not feel like it is a topic that loses it potency for bringing it up more than once. I would hope that we are not only taking this time of year to reflect on what we …
Letting Gratitude have more influence in your life Read More
I know a lot. I do. But the more I learn, the more I realize how much I do not know. Sometimes I go to therapy conferences and continuing education classes and learn amazing things. I can’t wait to use the new information. Learning also means there are plenty of times when I look back …
Why did you decide to make the appointment for therapy? Why did you keep that appointment and attend the therapy session? Why do you continue to attend therapy? These are questions I sometimes have clients ask themselves. This is important for them to explore because generally, people go to therapy to create a change in …
I believe that the root of pathology is the lack of access to emotional resources when a person experiences intense emotions such as anxiety, fear, shame, loneliness, or loss. Things feel like too much. A person can be overwhelmed by uncomfortable feelings and situations that they will do almost anything (even extremely unhealthy stuff) to …
What are MY Personal Coping Skills? And how to Know… Read More
We all get to a point of emotional instability, and I am referring to when our emotions are too much for us to handle in the moment. John Gottman refers to this as emotional flooding, when we are overwhelmed and emotions take over our logic. Studies have shown that our brains start to shut down …
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