I wrote this article last year at this time and wanted to share it again. I’m sure there are people in new circumstances who could use these tips again this holiday season. Losses come in various forms: death of a loved one, loss of a job, the end of a relationship, a family member suffering …
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I had a basketball coach who was a yeller. Anytime a player made a mistake out on the court, they got pulled out of the game and berated in front of the rest of us. We learned to play basketball so as not to make a mistake and ended up playing “not to lose” instead …
This time of year we focus on gratitude and the things we are thankful for. It is a good time to focus on gratitude in your relationships. Does your spouse feel appreciated and understand the gratitude you feel for him or her in your life? Many of the couples I work with express a frustration …
This week I attended a conference on Men’s mental health. One of the big themes of the conference how much LESS often men* ask for help. There are stigmas for men. They feel a need to be silent and stoic. Their pain needs to be invisible. They are told they need to “man up”, take …
As infants, when we felt distressed, we were offered several methods of self-soothing or calming. These include being swaddled, held, sucking on a pacifier, listening to white noise or the calming voice of a caregiver. The need to be able to calm or soothe ourselves remains with us as adults, however, the tools aren’t …
What is your definition of happiness? How would you know when you are finally happy? Often, we think of happiness as a state of being. However, we never “arrive” at happiness and stay there. Life is a journey of ever-changing emotions and circumstances. Therefore, a realistic goal might not be to “achieve” happiness but rather …
We are back again for part three of BOUNDARIES. You been gearing up! You’ve decided to set a boundary (part 1) and you’ve looked at the qualities of a good boundary (part 2). Now its time to look at owning your part of this unhealthy relationship. Stop letting them hurt you and the relationship. …
What is that thing about yourself that you really wish was different? Why is it so hard for you to change it? Has the problem continued despite creating impairments in your relationships, at work, or in your health? Knowing the process of change can help you find hope and motivation because you where you are …
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When you fly on an airplane, the flight attendant will inform you that in the event of an emergency, you must put on your own oxygen mask before attempting to help anyone else. The reason being, if you don’t have oxygen yourself, you will run out of air and will not be of help to …
Continued from post Are you a people pleaser? Once you have decided it is time to set a boundary, it is difficult to know where to begin. Believe it or not, the first place you start is with you. YOU have to be OK taking control of your life and experiencing the anger of the …
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