In the past I always found it difficult to help others who have gone through a loss, and know what to do to help. My default responses have always been “I am sorry for your loss” or “Let us know if there is anything we can do” and other responses. I wonder how much …
Timeouts are not just for kids. Adults can use them too and should use them if they want a better relationship. A very well-known marriage researcher and expert, Dr. John Gottman has found that if after 3 minutes, an argument is not going well then it more than likely will not get better and possibly …
Guided imagery is the exercise of visualizing a scene in order to create positive emotional feelings. The results are a calm body and mind. Researchers have found that using guided imagery can help reduce stress, manage chronic pain, and improves the immune response of clients who use it. How do you prepare to use guided …
Most of us do our best to make good decisions and try to prevent negative experiences from unnecessarily overwhelming us. Sometimes, despite our best efforts and decision-making, our life circumstances can throw at us things that we never would have predicted or chosen. We feel that despite our best decision-making that we are overwhelmed with …
When you go to the gym, play with your children, or go on a run you are doing more than just burning calories, you are treating your mind as well. I enjoy being outside and I try to stay active with the time I have available in my life, but I know that is easier …
Sometimes in relationships when we have become comfortable with each other, as time has passed, we forget how to show to our partners how much we care about them, our relationship and our appreciation for them. When this happens it is a lot easier to begin losing the emotional connection with our spouse which can …
Every time we perform an executive task we dip into our will power tank. Click here to be reminded what tasks are executive in nature. The use of executive functioning reduces the pool of will power temporarily. What drains the will power tank? Inhibiting impulses, self-restraint, self-management, self-organization, problem solving, self-motivation, other long difficult tasks, stress, alcohol, …
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One of the first challenges that I give to the couples I meet with is to go on weekly dates if they aren’t already and if they are, to make their dates more meaningful. Having weekly date nights does several positive things for your relationship. First, it gives you one on one time to reconnect. …
I recently re watched one of my favorite “TED Talks” about stress. For those of you who do not know, TED is an organization that shares all kinds of ideas through various specialists on the internet. I love them because they have many a few exceptional “TED talks” on psychology, mental health, and relationships. …
Usually people come into my office with a goal such as “I just want to be happy.” In this blog, I want to explore the idea a little bit further. I believe that if someone only wants happiness that they may undercut their own development. The quest for happiness can lead a person to suppress …
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