Much of the rhetoric in our society today focuses on what is best for the individual. Even when talking about a relationship many focus on “What’s in it for me?”

When two individuals come together to form a relationship they are creating another entity that needs to be cared for. A healthy relationship has its own needs and takes on its own personality that is separate from the individuals. When couples feed and actively nourish the relationship, it thrives and is strengthened.

Just like an individual has basic needs such as food, water and shelter, a relationship also has basic needs. If the basic needs of the relationship are not met, the relationship becomes weak and eventually dies. Relationships need nourishment. They need intentional loving and trustworthy actions, time, and shelter from things that will weaken the relationship. When individuals work hard at making sure the basic needs of the relationship are met, the relationship is healthy and thrives. When a relationship is thriving, the individuals in the relationship will also thrive.

Take a moment right now to ask yourself: “Am I working everyday to make sure my relationship is nourished and that the basic needs of the relationship are being met?” If your answer is “no,” make an intentional choice to do something today to nourish your relationship back to health. Make the decision right now to bring breath and life back into your relationship. Your relationship will thank you.