Quick reminder of the Path of with discernment therapy

Path 1: The Status Quo

Path 2: Separation or Divorce

Path 3: Reconciliation

What is to be gained from clarity and confidence when you decide to be committed on a path for the relationship? This comes in the form of commitment, and feeling like the decision made is going to lead to the best result. Rash and emotional decisions lead to regrets, the feeling of what if, and feeling unsettled. The process of discernment counselling is meant to take a long time no matter what path is chosen and so the cost and benefits can be weighed and measured. Pros and cons of staying in the relationship or leaving are examined and no stone is left unturned in order to be able to say this is the path we have chosen.

The status quo may sound like it is a bad thing, but sometime people chose this path for certain circumstances. This could be staying together for the children’s sake until they have left the house. However, some people just stay with what has been going on for a long time because it is easier not to make changes.

Reconciliation depends on the commitment of the people working towards this path for there to be success. Many of the interventions used would include the couple looking to themselves and seeing what they are doing to contribute to the dysfunction. When couples stop pointing fingers at each other, they can make the change necessary for the relationship.

Separation of divorce can have a peaceful end, and when the decision has been thoroughly vetted and looked at. Having time to really process the decision provides substance to a decision and makes it mutually agreed on after hearing both sides.

Each path is different, the path that a couple chooses is up to them but it needs to be their decision and commitment. It is wonderful to see my clients go through this process because when clarity and confidence can be gained it is a game changer.