Do you feel like you are the only one trying to save your relationship? This can be such a difficult feeling. Ideally, relationships can be mutually beneficial. However, like most that come to see me for counseling help, relationships can become mutually frustrating or destructive. Committed couple relationships are hard work. When you are with the same person for an extended period of time you become very aware of all their weaknesses. In fact, it could be said that couples know more bad things about each other than anyone else in the world, yet, they are supposed to love each other more than anyone else in the world.

Learning to accept these weaknesses and love the other in spite of those weaknesses offers a great opportunity for growth in a relationship. Things can be even better if both focus on improving those weaknesses for the benefit of the other. However, if you are the only one trying to accept the others weaknesses and improve your own, you may begin to feel exhausted in the relationship. Can you relate? This can be a very lonely feeling. One of the biggest challenges in resolving relationship problems is getting both partners equally motivated to improve things. If you feel an imbalance, give me a call. I would be happy to help you explore what could be done to help both of you do what it takes to reach the mutually beneficial relationship you want.