A common question I receive at first appointments from couples is: Can our marriage be saved? This is a good question. One that can help you determine if you should or should not try to work through things in counseling. If you ever find yourself asking this question, consider these thoughts:
- Do you love your spouse?
- Are you willing to improve with out needing to wait to see if your spouse improves first?
- Are you willing to work on strengthening your friendship with and commitment to your spouse?
- Are you willing to push through your feelings of resentment enough to make the personal changes you each need to make in order to improve for your spouse?
- Are you willing to accept help from a trained professional?
If you answered YES to these five questions, then the chances of your relationship being salvageable are very high. If you answered NO to one or more of these questions, ask yourself WHY? Are you willing to push through and make a 6-month commitment to a YES on these questions? If so, that could be enough to get things on the right track.
Repairing relationships always takes love, commitment, and mutual effort. And, seeking the help of a licensed marriage and family therapist can help you see new ways to salvage things that you may not have considered.